Hello my fellow Bloggers& Guests,
My name is Aishah (i-e-sha) and this is my first blog; the topic is something very dear to me as I am an African American female who has never dated an African American man. For a long time (I still feel this way) I felt like this was a huge betrayal to black men and myself. The truth is I don't date outside my race because I think other races are better nor do I do it because I think men who aren't black have more to offer me. I have nothing negative to say about black men. The only reason I can give as to why I choose to date outside my race (with white men in specific) is nothing other than personal preference. I can't help who I am attracted to. I've always felt this is something I should be ashamed of, but as I get older and more comfortable in my own skin, I realize I'm not doing anything wrong.
One of the major reasons I chose to start a blog was to see if there were others in my same position. Does NOT necessarily mean you have to be a black female who dates white men, but rather ANYONE who is "coming to terms" with their interests in dating outside their race. I will continue blogging about the challenges/obstacles interracial couples face, as well as factors that may contribute to why people choose to date outside their race.
I want to hear your stories and feel free to ask me questions...
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I completely agree. I am a full 100% Korean and i go by the name of Lexis and I adopted by a white family and I've never been attracted to Asian men. As a youth to becoming a young teen, I was more attracted to white men. As time went by and I grew into myself, I slowly found I was attracted to African American men the most. I think it is all based on how you are brought up and who you surround yourself with over time. I completely accept and smile when i see "interracial dating" because there is more and more of it going on now-a-days
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Lexis
I think this is a really good topic. For myself personally, I started out only considering dating men of my own race. I didnt exclude myself from dating out side of my race because I think my race is better, or anything of that nature..but only because it was just embedded in me to stay in my race. My mother (who is NOT raciest) has always been "Pro-Black" and always stressed the importance of staying within the race. She told me that it dating out of my race, would attract conflict or issues in race. I've also always been attracted mainly to African-American men, but as I got older, I started to become more open to dating out of my race. I went out on dates with 2 white men, and they were really sweet, but it never became serious. I was in a serious relationship with a bi-racial man, who was 1/2 black and 1/2 white. We were in a serious relationship for 3 1/2 years and though he is mixed, he appeared more white. To this day, I dont see anything wrong with dating out of your race, because love knows no color..but I will say that dating in your own race, is the safer decision because you wouldnt have to deal with outside critics. Im currently engaged to an African man, and though we are both black, our cultures some time come in between us, so I want to thank you for sharing this, because it has inspired me to write more about my experience of being with someone from another culture.
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Ashley
i am diggin this post. I have never dated inside my race. I dont subject myself to just dating African American men, but i am more attracted to them, and find them more open and forward. I wouldn't say no to a white man if he approached me and i was physically attracted to him. But i really honestly understand your post. My dad asked me before he passed why i always date black men.I simply said daddy its not the color of a persons skin, but the value of their personality and the connection between the two of us. He said oh hunny its not that i mind i just wondered. So i mean i think that our mingling outside our race is a beautiful thing, and it is getting more and more accepted day in and day out. I love interracial dating and i will probably end up marrying a black man, and carrying a mixed child. I love ya girl... thanks for addressin this issue
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